Deeper Self Care

Feeling pleasure, experiencing beauty, and playing in freedom in our imagination is our natural state. We are creatures of bliss and peace.

I have loved and appreciated so many articles and newsletters with solid suggestions of how to stay healthy and sane during this quarantine – keep hydrated, move your body, breathe, nutrition, wash yer paws, smell exquisite things, keep busy with those long overdue projects or be gentle with yourself when hours and days slip by with nary a single productive task crossed off the to do list, and limit the intake of negative media.

Yes, to all of these.

Let’s include pleasure, beauty, gratitude, and imagination. Are you with me?

“If you are depressed you are living in the past. 
If you are anxious you are living in the future. 
If you are at peace you are living in the present.”

-Lao Tzu

We are right now creating this very moment by how we interact with the moment. We can choose to be ok and even feel good. We really truly really can.

Creating positive thoughts and feelings are key to staying healthy. We know this, we call it a positive attitude. Let’s take it one step further.

Feeling pleasure, experiencing beauty, and playing in freedom in our imagination is our natural state. We are creatures of bliss and peace. Please release self-judgements and guilt for wanting and experiencing positive things. And let go of fear.

It does not mean we cannot take action. Nor does it mean we don’t care. We are not being disrespectful when we allow ourselves to feel good. We are strong & beautiful creatures with room to encompass it all.

So how to get there? The key is to move towards the yummy things. Make the intention to live in beauty. Use your imagination and step into worlds of wonder. Fill your hours with uplifting music and images whilst feeling gratitude for simple things, the beauty of bird song or a cup of warm tea. The negativity will slip away.

If you are stuck in negativity (anxiety or depression) and struggle with allowing yourself to feel good try this quick fix.

5 Minutes. Sit or lie down. Draw your awareness gently inside. Take 3 deep inhale/exhales. Now make a picture in your minds eye. See someone you love dearly, it can even be your cat or dog, see them in a beautiful place. A place that will make you and your beloved happy. Fascinate on the details of the place, colors, scents, temperature, sounds. Now see your beloved’s face in total bliss. Your beloved is sooo very happy, their fondest wish is come true and you see it in their smile and the sparkle in their eyes. Relish in their happiness. Their happiness is your happiness. Take a moment to experience how this feels in your body. Let this good feeling grow and saturate your entire being. Your physical, emotional, and energy body… your consciousness. Savor this feeling. Make an intention to bring this feeling with you. Slowly let your eyes open and take a deep breathe in and out.

This is an especially good one if you feel guilty about feeling good because (hopefully) you will get a contact high from your beloved feelin’ good. But check it out, it is all your imagination! YOU created it! Yet you still feel good!

Here’s Missy – She is my contact high. Who do you love to see blissed out?

Thank you for visiting, Gentle Reader!

Full Faerie Feelin’ – Fae on Friday

To fill with pleasure
So it overflows the soul
Is gratitude shared.
~ Me


To fill with pleasure
So it overflows the soul
Is gratitude shared.
~ Me

In this neck of the verdant wood, Chicago – the midwest region of the USA, we are celebrating Thanksgiving and tucking ourselves inside for a longish cold snap.  

But like many all over the world, we are steeped in grief and confusion over recent events and the condition of the world suffering under the blows of psychopathology.  Wondering what is to be done.

What is to be done?  Work magic.  Be a mystic.  Meditate this.  

Let yourself fill with all the beauty and love and golden light you can.  This.  Fill until it lights your heart, spills out of you into your aura, till it touches everyone one you know, and those you don’t, expanding out to fill rooms and buildings and cities and wilds and countries…  That…

And the fullness and expansion, this, is to express gratitude.   And gratitude is not a tame feeling of some external “should” foisted on you by a chiding authority.  It is raw, soul-awakening, hugely powerful, expansive beauty.  And though it may sound trite, it’s  what the world needs.

So indulge, don’t let yourself be robbed by fear and guilt…  

For me beautiful sights and colors and loved ones and art and perfume and yoga, and circus and music and and and…  They feed my soul.  What fills yours, dear Reader?  I urge you to find and indulge.  Feed yourself this soul light and thus the world.




Thank You, I am grateful to you, dearest Reader, for reading this blog!


What I Did On My Social Media Vacation


Some moons ago I took a couple weeks off of the blog and social media which turned into many moons more than two weeks worth.  Now even this update blog is many moons overdue.  Oops.  I have missed writing and dreaming stuff up here and interacting on the FB.  But I did get lots done.  Here is some of it.

I Opened an Etsy Store Called Lost Antiquities Found

No, it is not yet my perfume store…  Sigh.  But more on that in a sec.

This is a venture to find homes for many of the delightful plunders my parents curated during their extensive travels from the 1960’s though present.  I hope you have fun looking at these treasures.

You can check out the store by clicking here.  And read more about it by clicking here on this site.  And keep checking back cause I am still adding to it.

Here is a pic of my parents.  It’s one of their favorites.  And mine too.

Deb and Bob Stelton circa 1990’s

Here is my son’s room turned into an Etsy store while he is away at school.  Please buy it all so he will have a place to sleep during Thanksgiving break.


I am getting closer with the Verdant Faerie Scent Salon!

Totally cracked myself up staying up super late one night making a big shopping list of all the oils and absolutes I need to produce a bunch of bottles of magic juice.  That which made me laugh so hard I nearly peed myself was the outrageous cost!  Ah well, keeping the faith.  It will manifest.

Introducing Soon –

The Faerie Elemental Series! 
Sylph - A Floriental suitable for flitting gracefully through the air
Dryad - A mossy fernlike Fougere for an expression of earthy wonder 
Fire Drake - A smokey spicy  Gourmand fragrance for quickening & warmth
Undine  - A quixotic blend: part Floral, part Marine-fresh, part Marine-seaweed yet all dreamy, emotional, and sensual

The Phantasmagoria Series!  
Trubadur - classic and refreshing Cologne with vetiver.
Anam Cara - Floral with petitgrain on an earthy base. 
Hello My Goddess - sweet Citrus-Gourmand (named for my friend Indre Vepstas' store, Hello My Goddess.)  

I have noticed my creative tendency to replay and replay with blending before calling a blend finished, but I am getting there…

Bottles I have been looking at-




Magical Reads and ListensIMG_3505

The Living World of the Faery by Faery Faith teacher RJ Stewart, took me on a journey to the otherworld and I came back with two faerie beings.  One of them sprinkled blue glittery sparkles on the eyelids of my yoga student while I was doing energy healing on her!

Anam Cara means soul friend in Gaelic.  This book is a thing of shimmery poetics and earthly beauty.  Do read it.

Plant Intelligence and the Imaginal Realm.  Just started…

Faerie Magazine  mmmmmmm.

I have been hot on the Celtic Druid Ancient History trail and found synchronicity in some lovely podcasts;

An interview with Edmund Marriage on Where Did The Road Go
An interview with Laird Scranton on Where Did the Road Go
The Celtic Myth Podshow

Delightful Distractions

I committed!   I am hoping to perform with some of these lovelies on silks at the Aloft Student Showcase in December.  Urp, yikes.

Zoe’s class at Aloft 2014

I Realized Something About Gratitude

When we feel gratitude we raise our own vibrations AND the vibrations of others.  And experiencing the feeling of gratitude is allowing yourself to feel the pleasure of those good things we are grateful for.  To feel pleasure is the expression of gratitude.  It is a celebration of the abundant beauty of life.

In the past I have sometimes wanted to be grateful or even felt I should be grateful, which externalized gratitude.  It put gratitude outside of me and almost made me feel guilty for not feeling gratitude without telling myself I should be feeling grateful!

But allowing myself to feel the pleasure, to let it well inside of me, is what I believe it’s really about.

Try it and tell me what you think.  Get still, take some nice deep breaths, close your eyes, and pick a single thing in your life that delights your being, hold it in your heart,  and let yourself feel into it.  Let the feeling grow and expand.  Revel in it, go orgasmic crazy with pleasure.  Take another deep breath and hold on to the feeling.  Open your eyes.  Is the world a little more sparkly and vivid?  Are you ready to go about your day a little lighter?

peace y’all